I should know better, I really should than to read gossip sites or go on Twitter, but I felt like it was Dlisted so that makes it okay. So I guess Ariana Grande is the latest female celebrity that takes to social media to complain about the female sexualization and objectification of the female sexual image while wearing a bikini.
Her “value” as an individual has been overshadowed by the image she agreed to allowed to be marketed to the public. When you present yourself as a sex kitten
it becomes exceedingly difficult to talk about how women are portrayed as men’s sex objects with any sense of philosophical consistency. It’s difficult to describe men as misogynists and opportunists when you invite their misogyny and sexual scrutiny. Or do you think you’re not trying to promote a sexual image with a bikini and cat ears?
See when I show skin I want my boyfriend to notice and drag me off into the bedroom. How’s that for honesty? Is he a misogynist for getting the message I’m sending? No, but he would be stupid if he didn’t.
So, yes, Ariana, women can discuss their sex lives openly and people can have an opinion on it. Men are high-fiving your sexuality because they want to fuck you. It’s your fellow “sisters” who think you’re ridiculous when you talk about feminism wearing bikini cat suits as part of your job. You sell sexuality and then complain when people buy it. How is that empowering women? It makes us look like silly complainers.
You also spent months dating a man who talked about “smashing you” and suddenly you don’t like the use of such lovely language in reference to you or other women? Forgive me if I think you sound like an immature thinker and a poor speaker on what “feminism” really is.
Feminism was never intended to be a way for women to shield themselves from scrutiny. It’s not a shield. It was empowerment for women scientists, lawyers, doctors, and computer scientists to follow their dreams in regards to what they wanted to do with their lives. It was empowerment for mothers to have an equal voice in raising their children or financial decisions. Feminism was never about being able to wear a bikini cat suit while also telling people to quit pointing out how you look in your bikini cat suit.
My dear, feminism is also taking your lumps like a woman and showing that you have a basic understanding of logic and reason.
No one, not just women, require another person to be wholly themselves. Nothing you are saying is new or rocket science. The reason why people gravitate to relationships is because it is fun. Having someone to laugh with is fun. Having someone to go places with is fun. Having sex is fun. It’s not about need, it’s about want so don’t think you reinvented the wheel for being single for awhile.
Nor should you get mad at interviewers for asking about a relationship you flaunted in videos, social media, and twitter. It’s like vampires, you can’t complain when you invite them in. Live and learn from this in the future, just quit with the tantrums.
And now for some herstory:
This is feminism. This is female empowerment. Allowing yourself to be imprisoned, force fed, and beaten so that women have the right to vote is feminism. Any half-brained dolt can strip down and “empower” herself the way Ariana Grande has done. It takes zero effort to gain male attention with tits and a vagina. That’s not empowerment, it’s just sex.
If you want to be known as a whole person with a mind, show it. Quite frankly, as a female who has degrees, ideas, and also a sex life I am furiously angry by these dumb bitches who whine about feminism and empowerment while dragging us all down in the mire of caprice with their disrespectful and ludicrously juvenile commentary.
Feminism is not cat ears! It is about asserting your equality and humanity. It is not about special treatment or using the word “misogyny” to shield yourself from speculation. It is about mature ownership of your actions and being a responsible person worthy of an equal share of the pie.
Alice Paul was a feminist. Her cohorts were feminists. Ariana Grande is a young woman with a lot to learn.